There is a profound difference between self-regulation and self-control.
Self-control is about inhibiting strong impulses.
Self-regulation, reducing the frequency and intensity of the strong impulses by managing stress-load and recovery. Both are like a muscle that gets strong with more use, or more coordinated with practice. But how they function is completely different.
To this day, we continue to think about self-control in terms of exercising some sort of mental effort: an act of will to restrain yourself.
A.A: How did you discover CMC? What was the process like?
J.B: I discovered CMC through a co-worker of mine. He told me that a lady (Vivian Mandala) helped him obtain an OSHA 30 certification and a job. She worked with the shelter that I was staying in at the time. I wanted the same opportunities for myself. I contacted Vivian, attended an info session, and completed my necessary classes.
A.A: Where are you now? Where do you want to be five to ten years from now?
J.B: I work for a concrete company. Five to ten years from now, I would like to be set in my career.
A.A: How do you handle stress? How do you handle what life throws at you without letting it bring you down?
J.B: I have faith in myself and I remain resilient. I have accomplished way too much in my life to just stop and give up now.
A.A: How do you prevent yourself from making choices that can harm you?
J.B: My family is my greatest form of support. They inspire me to do well. I refuse to let them down.
A.A: What is the one thing you would like to say to the public since you now have a platform through CMC?
J.B: CMC is a great resource for people who have trouble finding a career path. It is also important to remember that with all of the resources and information available for trainees, it would still be their responsibility to do the work. At the end of the day, any success that is obtained is going to reflect your individual work ethic.
“Nonetheless, the fact remains; he had hope in a better world he could not yet see that overwhelmed the cries of "you can't" or "you won't" or "why bother." More than anything else, mastering that faith, on cue, is what separated him from his peers, and distinguishes him from so many people in these literal, sophisticated times. It has made all the difference.” ― Ron Suskind, A Hope in the Unseen: An American Odyssey from the Inner City to the Ivy League